It seems our whole life is a relationship with one thing or another. We are in relationship with people; our body; our emotions and our thoughts. We are in relationship with politics and our economy. We are in relationship with everything in our visible world as well as what lies beyond our visible world.
Some relationships we embrace with ease while we run and hide from others. Instinctively, we know that it is wise to achieve balance, but how do we do that? Especially when that relationship brings up negativity or fear?
We all carry fears and handle them differently. One thing that seems universal is that none of us like to acknowledge fear when we are feeling it. Many of us will resort to calling out others who are in fear, not recognizing it in ourselves.
Perhaps it is time to improve our relationship with fear. The following are six proven techniques to do just that.
There are three important rules here. First, we can’t come to balance what we don’t know exists. Once we know it exists, we are in relationship with it. Second, we don’t have to balance the positive, it is always the negative or fearful that needs balancing. Third, as you become aware of new negatives, the biggest trick is to not remain there. An important lesson for all of us to remember.
A good practice is to make it okay to acknowledge your own negativity or fear. Sit with it, feel it, communicate with it. What is it trying to tell you? What have you been avoiding?
Challenge yourself to experiment with a variety of techniques to transform negativity or fear. Stay with it until you find those that work for you. As you give yourself permission to experiment with your power, you will realize that you can transform that which challenges it. This alone will change your relationship with fear.
BE LIKE A NEUTRON AND GO NEUTRAL
Atoms are the basic building blocks of our body and they are comprised of a balance between (positive) protons, (negative) electrons and (neutral) neutrons. For the atom to move to create electricity, the atom must ‘let go’ of old connections and ‘accept’ new ones. This is applicable to our entire organism as well. Makes sense doesn’t it?
So many times, what makes us freeze is that we don’t know what to do. Or none of the options are acceptable. Or we don’t believe we have the power.
One effective way to get out of this impasse is as simple as 1,2,3. First, you take action and prepare for the worst. This removes the stress side of the equation. Second, you figure out a way to create the best. As you work to create a better future, you will find yourself more and more empowered and at ease. Third, you detach yourself from either polarity by going neutral.
If you get swept back into the spiral of fear again, this time you are on a different level and can remind yourself that you have done everything possible “It is what it is and I let go”.
USE THE POWER OF YOUR MIND
Our thoughts create our words and our words create our reality. But sometimes our thoughts are like a freight train going down the wrong track. We find ourselves along for the ride, holding on for dear life. But what if you knew that you don’t have to give up your power? What if you knew you can take control of the train by using thoughts and words to forge new tracks?
How do we do this?
The minute you realize you are on the wrong path, start forging your new route. Here are some words that can help to do that:
- EXERT YOUR POWER: “You have no power over me! I choose…”
- USE SEDA: “Stop! Expose, Dismantle, Allow” (More on SEDA below)
- USE LAW OF ATTRACTION: “Every day in every way I am healthy”
- USE IMAGINATION: “I choose to create his new reality”
And sometimes you need words to stop the mental chaos in your mind:
- SURRENDER TO A HIGHER POWER: “I have complete trust and faith in the wisdom and process of the Universe and I let go”
- ACCEPT REALITY: “It is what it is until it isn’t”
- ACCEPT THE UNKNOWN: “I know that I will know what I need to know when I need to know it”
The more you choose to control your thoughts, the greater power you amass. The greater you stand in your power, the more creative, positive and less fearful you become.
WHAT IS THE WORST THING THAT CAN HAPPEN?
Sometimes when you are frozen, you can’t logically think things through. None of the potential outcomes are acceptable. This is when I go to the worst thing that can happen. When I do this, I usually go through a couple of scenarios in my mind which always end in death. Yes, death.
Then I acknowledge the infinite being that I am. I recognize that plenty of people have died before me. I remember all the books I have read about near death experiences and I acknowledge that every single one of them can’t wait to go back to the other side. Then I realize that I already know death is the doorway to a better experience and I wonder what I am afraid of?
The minute I become okay with the worst thing that can happen, my fear is gone.
STOP! EXPOSE, DISMANTLE, ALLOW (SEDA)
This series of commands was given to me by Spirit as a result of my yearning for a method or a formula to transform negativity. There is beauty in the simplicity and the power of these four words. You can tailor it to use for anything that takes away your peace.
Stop! This fearful concern
Expose – The cause, effect and solution
Dismantle – That which is not in balance with the electro-magnetic spiral of life
Allow – An all-encompassing electro-magnetic wave to pulsate my frequency and that of the earth with a dynamic network of uniting and balancing energies
What was remarkable to me is that I didn’t have to build up any ‘spiritual muscle’ to benefit from its power. It worked from the first day I used it. You can chant it, sing it or simply call it forth.
BE IN NATURE
Mother Nature is supremely balancing to all living beings. Just getting out and being with the sun, earth, water and air is life supporting. Sitting with the trees, appreciating the plants, expressing wonder at the animals does wonders to recharge our spiritual battery of balance. Commit to be immersed in nature daily and experience its transformational power.
Any or all of these techniques hold the power to transform your relationships. As you engage in one or more of these techniques you will realize, it isn’t your relationships that are being transformed. It is you… And that is the point.